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When I think about the kinds of men I want to write about, I don’t think only about labels. I think about the lives they might lead, the people they might become, the friendships they might build, and the things they might struggle to say out loud. My interest in pan-flexible men comes from a…
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I think there is an important difference between being self-aware and constantly questioning yourself. At first, they can look almost identical. A self-aware person might ask themselves, “Did I handle that situation the right way?” They might think about what they said, consider how another person experienced the interaction, and recognize that they could have…
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Sometimes I think we underestimate what prolonged overwhelm can do to a person. We tend to think of overwhelm as something temporary. You have a stressful day. You have too many things to do. You get through it. You sleep. You recover. Then life goes back to normal. But what happens when life doesn’t go…
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When I think about writing pan-flexible men, I don’t only think about attraction. I think about everything that happens around attraction. I think about friendship. Brotherhood. Romance. Family. Vulnerability. Trust. Admiration. Loneliness. Affection. The desire to be understood. The desire to be close to someone without necessarily knowing exactly what that closeness is supposed to…
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The more I return to the subject of pan-flexibility, the more I find myself asking a different question. Instead of asking, “What is a pan-flexible man?” I find myself asking: “Who is he?” That small change in the question makes a surprisingly big difference. A label can give us language. It can help someone describe…
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When people talk about becoming a parent, the conversation often focuses on age. Was someone young when they became a parent?Did they wait until their 30s? Did they become a father in their 40s? Is 45 too late? Is 47 too late? I don’t think those questions tell us nearly as much as we sometimes…
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I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about the different kinds of men I admire. Sometimes that admiration centers on pansexual or panromantic men. Sometimes it centers on pan-coded male characters. Sometimes it is the fictional man who seems completely straight but has an extraordinarily open, accepting, emotionally intimate way of relating to other people.…
